Humour is a very sensitive thing.............

Humour is a tendency of certain cognitive experiences to provoke laughter and provide amusement.Having a sense of humour is a good attribute. What can be better than to make people laugh, to distribute happiness, to give people some moments to forget the pains of their life. But having a good sense of humour is something else. Everybody can be funny at times, and make people laugh. But a person can truly distribute happiness if he himself is happy. Also one important thing is that one should be strong enough to laugh on himself. But this is not enought to go and make people laugh. These are just the pre-requisites. Afterall being a joker is not everybody's cup of tea.
It is not that you crack jokes at every action and everyone. It is good if you can do that sensibly, and make people laugh. But a person with a good sense of humour is one who makes everybody listening to it laugh. It should not be that only few people are laughing and other are being laughed . At times it goes with the moment. But the person(s) who are being laughed on should not be hurt by your words. Then it is no humour anymore...
So spread happiness if you can, and if you can't just enjoy your own .. !!


-Joker

Words matter....

I used to be the person to whom words never mattered. It used to be the feelings which I valued the most...Used to have those abstract communications with people and keep on thinking that there is no communication gap.. But recently I have realized that words really matter, but if there are no feelings and only words, somehow, someday it would be caught as a fake, and should never be pursued.. But if there are feelings, they should necessarily be accompanied by nice words, otherwise all goes in vain, it is not worth it.It so happened that my only friend for whom I care the most in this universe,I will cry if she is sad, I will be happy in her happiness, I will try to solve each and every issue disturbing her life (though keeping the solutions to myself, rather than conveying them), whose every word I value in life, almost each moment I think about her, and cant imagine at least my present without talking to her ,don't feel like finding anybody else, coz nobody seems to be better than her. But somehow when she recited me some nice words, though they dint had any tune, they were not any song, but they seemed to me as a song of my life, with which I can live without any regrets ... Then I realised that words really matter.. And also they should exactly reciprocate feelings from your heart, no psuedo-thigies.. .otherwise everything seems to be pseudo, and no matter how hard you try then you can never return back to living your dreams, because dreams are pure not psuedo. Being good with my words is a habbit I would like to make a part of my life.
Earlier I used to think that if there is communication gap, then the talk is not worth it. But my definition of communication gap used to lack the basic substance in it. When there is no communication how can there even be a communication gap.. firstly u need to communicate. I mean u need to say some words. Then the other thing that matters is that, you should know the other person so well that you should know how to communicate your message.. And if then there is a communication gap, that is you don't even know that how you can get him/her to understand your feeligs, that is you don't even know what he/she might interpret about your words, I guess than it is not worth it. (And here I'm not talking about proffessional issues, there you have to communicate some way or the other, no emotions involved there)..

Anyway, to cut the crap, rather than blogging, writing too much, I must also learn to speak and express my feelings.. And in a way that other person should understand them the way I want them to be conveyed.. !!

-Prshant

Ambiguity - 1

To add to the list of so many ambiguities in my life, I recently found one more. I’m emotional by nature, I know and that I cannot change how hard I try. I have extra tear glands, I know. I don’t wanna think of me being emotional, coz this will make me more emotional, and the vicious circle will go on. I better stay away from this and go on with life. But if life had been so simple, why would there be vacancies for people like Psychologist, and why would people a weird subject as Humanities in their Engineering degrees. So the thing is that life is a bit complex to understand, but simple to live J. And as for me the ambiguities keep on coming to me as somebody smashed a mathematical problem, and I had been told to solve it , and also the difficulty of the problem is directly proportional to the time I spend in solving it, that is the difficulty level goes on increasing with time. And all these problems are smashed on my soul by nobody else but by myself. I make them and spend time finding solutions to them. And as soon as a problem is over, randomly do I rest before starting a new search. This is endless. And the latest one is related to the attachments we have with certain things in life. When I’m attached to somebody or something, which I do very fastly, it is very hard for me to absorb the departure of that entity from my life. And when I know the end is near, I prefer to better be away, but then I always think that why be away even before the departure. And this puts more stress on my limbic system. And if I try to be as usual, I constantly remind myself that one day it will be all gone and it will hurt, so better don’t involve that much. And after that point I cannot be normal for sometime. I never had a solution to this ambiguity in my life. I have just spent endless time solving it and increasing its complexity, and finally diverting my attention to some other existing problem.
I guess this problem is not meant to be solved.. It is meant to be there unsolved to always tell us the existence of life, and put some sparkles in it, to tell us the value of someone else. So better take it as a healing process than a destruction process. I mean go on solving it, but don’t get involved. More it gets complex, more you will get to know the profound qualities of this beautiful life. It is like the story of Sisyphus. After all, a man condemned to pushing a rock up a hill with full knowledge that it will roll back down, requiring him to start pushing anew, is not the sort of story that you'd expect to have a happy ending. Even the rock of our self-exploration happens to roll back down; we will have learned quiet a many things. But the beauty is that it never rolls down. There are a whole lot of people in life who will never let it roll back down…..

When you are young you think you can connect to many people,
Later in life you realize that it only happens a few times .. !!

-Joker